On being comfortable with uncertainty

Wow, it has been a long time since I posted here. A lot has happened since my last post, some of it good, some of it deeply concerning. I have been deeply involved in work at my new job, one of my kids has graduated from college, and there have been many changes in the world, both at work and outside it.

One thing that seems to have increased significantly for a lot of people is uncertainty about our work and personal futures. As I write this, roads around Ireland are blocked for the fifth day by fuel protestors, expressing deep concern about their ability to continue generating a viable livelihood. They, in turn, are creating uncertainty and hazard for others – people who are unable to get fuel and food, or make it to a long-awaited hospital appointment, or get to the airport on time for a flight. In a much more impactful way, several regional conflicts have been started or continue, with mass loss of life and existential uncertainty for those directly involved.

In the world of work, AI has caused both excitement and fear, among other, less extreme emotional responses. Those who profess excitement envision a future in which humans are enabled by AI to become “superintelligent.” Those who are afraid are concerned primarily about massive job losses. While neither camp is likely to be completely right, job losses are occurring, particularly among junior software developers and graduates entering the workforce.

Personally, I don’t know what will happen with any of these things. I’m not a futurist, nor do I play one on the Internet. On the subject of AI, I hope our future will be like the one laid out by Max Tegmark and others, where AI gives us more free time while still allowing us to choose to work. In my opinion, we need to work and struggle to become the best versions of ourselves. We have seen what happens to humans when we have abundant food and insufficient physical exertion – we become overweight, unhealthy and incapable. Without sufficient mental challenge, I am concerned that we will have equivalent cognitive impacts and become less capable of independent, critical, creative thought.

As leaders, we need to help others in a way which is new but familiar. While in the past, part of my role was to reduce uncertainty for my staff, I believe this is no longer possible. In this new world, we need to demonstrate comfort with uncertainty as the pace of change accelerates. We have to model an approach that focuses on curiosity, building new skills and maintaining human connection. We have to acknowledge that the uncertainty can be scary, but that it is likely to be the norm for the foreseeable future (again, see my note above on futurism). Instead of trying to reduce uncertainty, we have to support our teams to dial down their psychological and emotional responses to it. This approach will allow people to focus on building skills, developing new understanding of emerging roles and delivering more value for the organisations we work for.

I’ve said I don’t have all the answers, and I suspect, as is often the case at times of significant upheaval, no one does. I think the leaders who support their teams through the uncertainty we are all feeling, while modelling curiosity and calm, will be the ones who best serve their staff and organisations. If you are dealing with this as a leader and have found an approach that works for you, I’d love to hear from you. Onward!

When in doubt (or actually in a hole) stop digging

How many times have you taken one step too far, only to regret not pausing earlier to assess your actions or direction? Maybe you made one more cut and ruined the carving, or delivered an extra hammer blow only to discover that the resistance you encountered was a water pipe behind the drywall. Or perhaps you said one word too many, turning a disagreement into a full-blown argument

Sometimes, our motivation to “just get things done” can cause us to make poor decisions. We overrule the voice in our heads that says, “Hold up a sec. Is this what we should be doing right now?” That voice is often the sound of our subconscious, which may have spotted warning signs that our conscious mind is either unaware of or has dismissed. We can save ourselves some unnecessary grief if we pause for a minute and ask – “Why am I feeling doubt about this?”

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When Life Just Keeps Coming

There are periods in every life where the pace seems relentless. We roll from one crisis to another, sometimes feeling like survival alone is challenging. For some of us, these are short periods before we get back into a smoother rhythm. For others, the challenges can keep coming, one after another, until it seems almost impossible to continue. In either case, there are things that we can do to help ourselves. One of those things is to take advice from the Stoics.

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It might be time to make a change

We learn a lot about change as we age. We’re told change is a constant, which seems like both an oxymoron and a truism. We are told that persistent change is difficult, particularly regarding habitual behaviours. The fact is, we are all in a constant state of change whether we acknowledge it to ourselves or not.

A few people have asked me recently, “When do I know it’s time to make a change?” In this post, I propose some criteria that I hope you will find relevant.

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Stress and the Goldilocks Effect

We are in an age where stress and stress management are frequently discussed and often without context. Stress is a complex topic, and I’d like to cover some of it in this blog post. The key question for this post is how do we know when our stress levels are “just right”?

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On dealing with the ungrateful

Marcus Aurelius, in his Meditations, instructed himself this way:

When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: the people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly.

Given Marcus’ other writings, this seems like a harsh judgement of his fellow men. Marcus, like other Stoics, believed in reserving harshness for himself. He also believed in being unsurprised by people behaving according to their nature. So, how should we deal with the ungrateful in our lives?

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The Nature of Reality

I spoke with a colleague recently over dinner, and we started talking about physics, which is his passionate interest. I’m not a physicist, nor can I play one even in my mind, never mind on the Internet. He, on the other hand, studied physics in college. He continues to read widely on things I consider borderline arcane, including quantum physics and mechanics. The conversation briefly moved onto the nature of reality before diverging and heading into more mundane conversational waters. But it triggered something because I woke up in the middle of the night thinking that the nature of reality is about individual experience.

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